Is There a How-To Guide For Gay Orgies?
Hey, hows it going? I got a question?
relationship with women it hasn't ever lasted/worked out very well
and I think Ill give boys a shot at least for a while.
next time my parents go on vacation (I'm thinking I wanna dive
right into it! ) I want to always practice safe sex so condoms will
be a requirement. Do you have any other tips for ground rules or
where to find these guys in general? Or even do you think I should
do it at all?!
Dearest DSD,
That is one doozey of a question! Filled with plenty spice and a hint of craycray! Love it...
In fact you asked me several.... complicated... questions! Where to start....? Well your last question was the easiest to answer DSD, so can I work my way backwards?
Your mentioning safe sex is what made me think of a few other items that perhaps you hadn't thought of that enhance your safety during sex! One being lube. You may be thinking OF COURSE you want plenty of lube handy in a room full of randy gentleman! Lube as well as chap stick can actually help you prevent against HIV and AIDS! This is because chapped lips as well as tearing of your nether region will be an open wound from which you can bleed onto another person. It is also an open wound creating easy access for another's bodily fluid to make contact with your blood supply. So, besides making your amorous activities more comfortable, stocking up on chap stick and lube will make the event a whole hell of a lot safer!
I sort of don't believe you when you say you "think" you are gay. To me it sounds like you are so gay that you can't wait to be in a room full of naked men. Things not working out so great with girls isn't a reason to decide you are now sexually attracted to men. However, even if liking guys is a "just for right now" experiment of yours - I have no problem with that either! The question here is... is an orgy the best way to have your first gay experience?
To me, that sounds pretty damn intimidating! Imagine all the factors that could go wrong here DSD... someone you don't vibe with shows up... someone looks at you funny... something uncomfortable happens... and maybe right in the middle of all the hoopla you decide ... "Hey I don't really like guys after all!!" What then DSD?? I'm sort of scared for you in this scenario. And perhaps your parents house gets all kinds of messed up and you end up telling your mom a story about what happened to her favorite throw pillows when she looks at you with suspicion!
That might be worst case scenario but... the question is blaring in my mind: Is there something wrong with taking things slow? Is a kind and friendly relationship with a gay man out of the question? Which leads me to my next question: is group sex is a burning fantasy of yours?
Fantasies with multiple partners are extremely common, especially for men! 54% of men think about sex every day with their earliest recalled fantasy being between the ages of 11-13. 54 - 88 % of these fantasies involves group sex. You could have been thinking of this scenario every day for ten years, for all I know! So who am I to tell you that you shouldn't act on it?
Well, sometimes sexy ideas come with unexpected complications. Only about 10% of people make their sexual fantasies reality on average during their lifetimes. Like any good thing, too much of it can bring it into the realm of dull routine. Do you want to spoil a perfect mental image of gang of ripped sexy men arriving at your home to please you with the reality: the disappointment when someone inevitably shows up with bad breath or a pimply ass?
If you MUST act on these group sex urges can I suggest there are better ways than scouring craigslist for adventuresome young males (who might turn out to be serial killers) and possibly ruining your mother's throw pillows in the process? There are venues where group sex can take place. People participate in unrestrained sexual behavior reminiscent of the Roman orgies of yore! Instead of taking on the pressure of being the host for your very first one, why not arrive as a guest (free to leave if you have second thoughts)?
Now this isn't as easy as walking into your favorite dance spot on their "Sex Night Wednesday" and paying an $8 cover at the door. No, you may likely have to find an insider into this life and have them vouch for you to get your name on an exclusive guest list. Maybe attending a "Munch" to gain approval by the moderators of this kinky group. Also, (depending on the group sex culture of your area) there may be a very hefty cover. The underground sex scene will look different in every city but generally you can expect to find this dirty secret in any major metropolis. Just talk to the right people and show up at the right places. These parties are most often made to appeal to swingers DSD, and the crowd tends to be both genders, bi-friendly, sometimes in the forms of couples, and often people who have had time to explore and feel comfortable with their sexual preferences. Being a single young male may pose a barrier for you to find your ideal crowd.
On these parties I do not claim to be an expert! Due to their secretive nature the "sex scene" will look different in different locations and different at different times as the kink community ebbs and flows. There is no specific advice to dish out on this one. However I found this website. It was enough info to get my imagination swimming!!!
Here's to the fulfillment of all your dirty desires in the new year,
- The Sexpert
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