Dinner Date?
Writing about fetishes has made me realize that all of them exist on a spectrum. Food of course is a basic human need. We all eat to survive. However, eating for a lot of us is a way to socialize and commune with one another. Going out to a fancy restaurant or cooking for your partner are both classic staples of romance.
But can your hunger for food drive your hunger for sex? That is what the belief in aphrodisiacs asserts. Some aphrodisiac foods cause hormonal releases in the body (like celery and chocolate) that mimic arousal while others (like oysters or nuts) are just simple legend and tradition.
Further along the food freakiness spectrum is incorporating food into play. Which is actually pretty delightful right? Chocolate sauce and whip cream are good go-to's that you just might have hanging out in the shelves of your refrigerator already. Decorating, dripping, licking, sweet sticky substances from your partner is a fun way to tease. It sends the not-so-subtle message that you think your partner is tasty. A bottle of Hershey's chocolate syrup will probably run you $3. If you're the fancy type, the purchase of a "Body Treats" will set you back about $45.
I was really intrigued when Nyotaimori (female) and Nantaimori (male) gained press in the US. Originally practiced in Japan, though not widely popular there, "body sushi" is the act of using a naked body as a plate for your sushi. This controversial practice has been outlawed in China for health reasons. It also caused a scandal in South Africa when millionaire, Kenny Kunene (nick named Mr. Sushi or Sushi King) featured nyotaimori at his birthday party in 2010. The African National Congress Women's League called it an attack on the bodily integrity of the women of South Africa! A good body sushi model is supposed to lay completely still and lifeless during the event, which is perhaps what raises the eyebrows of those sensitive to sexual objectification. The models must also bathe with unscented soap in cold water directly before being decorated in sushi. A night of Nyotaimori could cost you beetween $75 - $300.
A Minneapolis restaurateur, Thom Pham hosted a body sushi night at one of his former restaurants in my home town in 2008. This event needed special approval from the health board that was granted only after a trial run! Pham repeated, "Its art!" throughout the night to his guests at the all you can eat buffet. This featured both a male and female model. The guests and models alike were just your average local Minnesota folks. Pham continued to host body sushi nights but only for private parties thereafter while the restaurant, Temple, remained open.
A fetish for wet and messy food play is called Sploshing or WAM. What sets sploshing apart from other food play is that the enjoyment for its participants is derived from the mess they are creating. Unlike the meticulous nature of sushi or the sensual taste of chocolate, WAMer's are not so picky. They are carefree enough to not worry if the food is typically "sexy" at all! They'll take ketchup, baked beans, you name it! Sploshing gets its name from a British magazine named Splosh! that lasted 40 issues. This publication featured pictures of WAM play that remain iconic to the sploshing community to this day.
I first learned about sploshing in a segment of the show Real Sex on HBO. A lady featured on this show really enjoyed sitting on expensive cakes! My affinity for the psychosexual theories of Freud is once again peaked as I can not help myself but relate the love of making a mess to what Freud would refer to as an Anal Expulsive personality. According to Freud when someone was heavily rewarded by their parents during potty training they continue to develop into adulthood with a delight in creating messes. He categorized expulsive types as being generally creative, sometimes sarcastic, disorganized, and emotionally volatile.
Whatever your appetite,
- The Sexpert
Further along the food freakiness spectrum is incorporating food into play. Which is actually pretty delightful right? Chocolate sauce and whip cream are good go-to's that you just might have hanging out in the shelves of your refrigerator already. Decorating, dripping, licking, sweet sticky substances from your partner is a fun way to tease. It sends the not-so-subtle message that you think your partner is tasty. A bottle of Hershey's chocolate syrup will probably run you $3. If you're the fancy type, the purchase of a "Body Treats" will set you back about $45.
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I was really intrigued when Nyotaimori (female) and Nantaimori (male) gained press in the US. Originally practiced in Japan, though not widely popular there, "body sushi" is the act of using a naked body as a plate for your sushi. This controversial practice has been outlawed in China for health reasons. It also caused a scandal in South Africa when millionaire, Kenny Kunene (nick named Mr. Sushi or Sushi King) featured nyotaimori at his birthday party in 2010. The African National Congress Women's League called it an attack on the bodily integrity of the women of South Africa! A good body sushi model is supposed to lay completely still and lifeless during the event, which is perhaps what raises the eyebrows of those sensitive to sexual objectification. The models must also bathe with unscented soap in cold water directly before being decorated in sushi. A night of Nyotaimori could cost you beetween $75 - $300.
A fetish for wet and messy food play is called Sploshing or WAM. What sets sploshing apart from other food play is that the enjoyment for its participants is derived from the mess they are creating. Unlike the meticulous nature of sushi or the sensual taste of chocolate, WAMer's are not so picky. They are carefree enough to not worry if the food is typically "sexy" at all! They'll take ketchup, baked beans, you name it! Sploshing gets its name from a British magazine named Splosh! that lasted 40 issues. This publication featured pictures of WAM play that remain iconic to the sploshing community to this day.
I first learned about sploshing in a segment of the show Real Sex on HBO. A lady featured on this show really enjoyed sitting on expensive cakes! My affinity for the psychosexual theories of Freud is once again peaked as I can not help myself but relate the love of making a mess to what Freud would refer to as an Anal Expulsive personality. According to Freud when someone was heavily rewarded by their parents during potty training they continue to develop into adulthood with a delight in creating messes. He categorized expulsive types as being generally creative, sometimes sarcastic, disorganized, and emotionally volatile.
Whatever your appetite,
- The Sexpert
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