Anal August, Prostates, and Pegging
Good Vibrations, a San Francisco based sexual wellness store, has declared it to be Anal August. A tradition they have upheld since 2004. This not only gets you 20% off anal toys in their store, but it is a good excuse for me to write about anal pleasures.
For both sexes, anal contact can be pleasurable as the rectum is one of the most sensitive areas on the body. The muscles of the rectum are part of the pelvic floor and thus stimulation of this area can add to the intensity of sensations during orgasm. For men, they have the additional delight of a prostate gland that is able to be stimulated in this region. The prostate has been given the nickname The Male G-Spot.
Similar to female g-spots, the prostate gland is a walnut sized spot located just 2 inches inwards. It is not actually part of the anal structure but instead is part of the reproductive structure (see diagram). Semen actually passes through the prostate on its way to being fully ejaculated. It is where it picks up some additional fluid as well as being further propelled outward by the soft muscles that exist there. The prostate is just merely most easily stimulated through anal contact.
There has been a growing awareness of prostate pleasure in the last few years. Is this because of a growing toy market or a growing openness in society to have conversations about ways to feel good?
Prostates can be stimulated with fingers and tongues. This can be a main event or a side dish to a hand job, a blow job, or done during sex. Men testify prostate stimulation is the added ingredient to make an orgasm an "earth shattering" experience.
However, tongues and lips and fingers flailing all over the place can get to be a zoo.... A solution: the butt plug. Put it in, and you have prostate stimulation without any further fuss. You can wear one during whatever other activities strike your fancy with minimal effort. If you watched the Anal August video (linked above) you saw a RULE of anal toys needing a flared bottom. This is for safety and any thing that you decide to plug you butt with should be designed to not disappear within. Lest an embarrassing ER visit shall be in your future. Butt plugs come in all shapes and sizes so there is no need to stress. There WILL be one that fits your individual needs.
While the video addressed hygiene of toys, (cleaning and condoms, etc.) a further note is to mention that some materials used to manufacture toys will work against your best efforts to stay clean and safe. Glass or metal are not porous and thus bacteria has a difficult time growing on them. If a soft pliable toy is your heart's desire, make sure it is not soft plastic or rubber. Medical grade silicone is what you will need to ensure that no funk takes up permanent residence on your toy. Silicone is such an ideal material for a toy anyways because it is velvety soft to the touch.
There are also prostate stimulators. While a butt plug may be designed to sit snugly in place, a prostate simulator is made for further "exploration." It is somewhat similar in design to a g-spot toy you would expect to see for a female. They have a more dramatic bend or a base which is to provide its user with a "flared bottom." Some of them even vibrate!
While poking around the interwebs to see what else is out there on the subject of prostates, I found these directions for how to find one's prostate with the assistance of a partner. This article requests men to lay on their backs with legs lifted. It could already be true that while reading what I have written so far about male anal penetration you mentally categorized the information as "for gay men." I just have to ask, if prostate stimulation feels just as wonderful for gay and straight men alike, why should only one kind of man feel comfortable taking part in it?
Currently in society we are socialized to think of heterosexual males in a particular way. It's OK for one partner to prefer the role of dominance and to embrace the task of being a (respectful) top. I just think people should relax and feel comfortable switching roles at their whim because being stuck inside of a routine is a recipe for sexual boredom!
In 2010, Dan Savage, is credited in publicizing the term "pegging" during his interview on The Colbert Report. The world has not been the same since. Pegging, for those of you in the dark, is the practice of a woman penetrating a male lover anally with the use of a strap on. Pegging has been around longer than the last 3 years, however, but was an activity without a formal name prior.
There is a sociopolitical bent to advocating this activity. Savage speaks freely when he encourages all men to try this once so that they may gain perspective on what it is like to be a receiver. Is the solution to sexism as simple as being pegged?
The band Steely Dan is named after the dildo used on a man from the 1959 novel, Naked Lunch. Raquel Welch actually rapes a man via pegging in the 1970 film Myra Breckinridge. These are hardly helpful examples to convince your lover to partake in some pegging. So why not try the DVD series Bend Over Boyfriend or Tristan Taormino's Expert Guide to Anal Pleasure For Men? Both designed to be instructional. I could write a whole other post to discuss types of strap-ons... and perhaps one day I will. To avoid getting far off topic, I will simply leave you with pictures of women wearing a diverse assortment of strap-ons to view at your own leisure. There's lots of boobs - you've been warned.
The thing about anal is that a certain amount of comfort needs to be established before there is any shred of hope it could be pleasurable. For some men, being penetrated in any fashion is never going to feel "ok" - and that's OK! While the most direct and intense way to play with a prostate is internal, there are other less anxiety inducing ways to stimulate it. Tugging on the testes is one. Pressing firmly on the perineum is another.
Be versatile,
- The Sexpert
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| Butts! |
Similar to female g-spots, the prostate gland is a walnut sized spot located just 2 inches inwards. It is not actually part of the anal structure but instead is part of the reproductive structure (see diagram). Semen actually passes through the prostate on its way to being fully ejaculated. It is where it picks up some additional fluid as well as being further propelled outward by the soft muscles that exist there. The prostate is just merely most easily stimulated through anal contact. There has been a growing awareness of prostate pleasure in the last few years. Is this because of a growing toy market or a growing openness in society to have conversations about ways to feel good?
Prostates can be stimulated with fingers and tongues. This can be a main event or a side dish to a hand job, a blow job, or done during sex. Men testify prostate stimulation is the added ingredient to make an orgasm an "earth shattering" experience.
However, tongues and lips and fingers flailing all over the place can get to be a zoo.... A solution: the butt plug. Put it in, and you have prostate stimulation without any further fuss. You can wear one during whatever other activities strike your fancy with minimal effort. If you watched the Anal August video (linked above) you saw a RULE of anal toys needing a flared bottom. This is for safety and any thing that you decide to plug you butt with should be designed to not disappear within. Lest an embarrassing ER visit shall be in your future. Butt plugs come in all shapes and sizes so there is no need to stress. There WILL be one that fits your individual needs.
While the video addressed hygiene of toys, (cleaning and condoms, etc.) a further note is to mention that some materials used to manufacture toys will work against your best efforts to stay clean and safe. Glass or metal are not porous and thus bacteria has a difficult time growing on them. If a soft pliable toy is your heart's desire, make sure it is not soft plastic or rubber. Medical grade silicone is what you will need to ensure that no funk takes up permanent residence on your toy. Silicone is such an ideal material for a toy anyways because it is velvety soft to the touch.
There are also prostate stimulators. While a butt plug may be designed to sit snugly in place, a prostate simulator is made for further "exploration." It is somewhat similar in design to a g-spot toy you would expect to see for a female. They have a more dramatic bend or a base which is to provide its user with a "flared bottom." Some of them even vibrate! 
While poking around the interwebs to see what else is out there on the subject of prostates, I found these directions for how to find one's prostate with the assistance of a partner. This article requests men to lay on their backs with legs lifted. It could already be true that while reading what I have written so far about male anal penetration you mentally categorized the information as "for gay men." I just have to ask, if prostate stimulation feels just as wonderful for gay and straight men alike, why should only one kind of man feel comfortable taking part in it?
Currently in society we are socialized to think of heterosexual males in a particular way. It's OK for one partner to prefer the role of dominance and to embrace the task of being a (respectful) top. I just think people should relax and feel comfortable switching roles at their whim because being stuck inside of a routine is a recipe for sexual boredom!
In 2010, Dan Savage, is credited in publicizing the term "pegging" during his interview on The Colbert Report. The world has not been the same since. Pegging, for those of you in the dark, is the practice of a woman penetrating a male lover anally with the use of a strap on. Pegging has been around longer than the last 3 years, however, but was an activity without a formal name prior.
There is a sociopolitical bent to advocating this activity. Savage speaks freely when he encourages all men to try this once so that they may gain perspective on what it is like to be a receiver. Is the solution to sexism as simple as being pegged?
The band Steely Dan is named after the dildo used on a man from the 1959 novel, Naked Lunch. Raquel Welch actually rapes a man via pegging in the 1970 film Myra Breckinridge. These are hardly helpful examples to convince your lover to partake in some pegging. So why not try the DVD series Bend Over Boyfriend or Tristan Taormino's Expert Guide to Anal Pleasure For Men? Both designed to be instructional. I could write a whole other post to discuss types of strap-ons... and perhaps one day I will. To avoid getting far off topic, I will simply leave you with pictures of women wearing a diverse assortment of strap-ons to view at your own leisure. There's lots of boobs - you've been warned.
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| Its a pegging party! |
Be versatile,
- The Sexpert
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